Tuesday, June 20, 2017

Uranus in the 4th House

Let’s continue the Uranus in the houses series with the next requested placement: Uranus in the 4th House. If Uranus is where things do not happen or unfold conventionally for us, then having a 4th House Uranus means that you have a personal and familial history that has been anything but “normal.” The 4th House shows us where we’ve come from and the ways in which we’ve developed our roots through these past experiences. It also shows the people who have come before us or who share a common clan and the ways in which we share those experiences or are affected by their experiences. Basically, the family tree is the 4th House. But, what happens when Uranus is in the 4th is that this family tree is experienced as strange, foreign, unpredictable, or alienating.

Since Uranus is where we experience a sense of detachment, people with this placement generally feel detached from their families. Of course, this manifests in many different ways. One of them is the person who is actually distanced from their family of birth and has been since the beginning. In other words, someone who has been adopted or who has been put through foster care. The abrupt changes that Uranus brings to its house could mean that, with this placement, you were suddenly separated from your family as a baby or toddler and didn’t see them again until you were an adult. And by this time, you don’t even know who they are. The feeling that the relatives are strangers can operate in this literal definition, making you the classic adopted child.

The unpredictability of Uranus also could have manifested in your life through being a foster child and having this revolving door of families. There was not much attachment formed, at least not for long, because you always knew that your time with them wouldn’t last. It can be quite tough having Uranus in the 4th, even to a degree that rivals Saturn or Pluto occupying your 4th House. The reliable comfort and support that people expect in childhood does not quite happen for the 4th House Uranus child. When you cried out, you didn’t believe that anyone really cared that much. Either that or you suspected that they would leave you, sooner or later. All of Uranus’ changes happening on the home-front never made you feel safe. On some level, you felt abandoned by your family, which is usually rooted in some significant figure in the family abruptly leaving or randomly coming and going. It’s as if you could not rely on them or count on them in the long-term. 

It's no wonder why many Uranus in the 4th House individuals can grow up with a shaky personal foundation that makes them very defensive or guarded. It all stems from this long personal history of an inconsistent or impersonal home environment. And, of course, this can be true even if you weren’t adopted or a foster child. While I don’t think the 4th House is a symbol of either parent (unless the Sun, Moon, or Saturn are here), I do think that it shows the kind of existence that the parent was able to provide their child and family. It’s the home atmosphere and rhythm that your caregivers established. And with Uranus in the 4th House, there was no predictable or stable rhythm. One or both of the parents were responsible for a lot of chaos in the home. Nothing remained in a static state for long. However, this is also the same thing that instilled insecurities within you because you never knew what to expect and when.

Since Uranus goes against established order, the contradiction here is that, as a child, you develop very controlling tendencies in order to compensate for your parents’ lack of consistency or stability. You might have looked around and decided that somebody needed to be the adult in the house. It’s not by being responsible, like it would be with Saturn in the 4th. It’s more so a constant questioning of the rules that were being enforced, even if the rule was to not have very few rules. We are always doing the opposite of what happens in the life area of our Uranus house. So, if your parents were very lenient about something, you could be very strict with yourself about it. Conversely, if they were insisting on a certain rule, you pushed back and wondered why they were doing so.

It's no surprise, then, that you turn out to be the distinctly defiant one in your family unit. Over the years, you have developed a relationship with your family that is contrary and sometimes quite rebellious. Uranus in the 4th House kids can rebel in major or minor ways in the household. But, regardless, you will be living off of your own rhythm. There is this sense that you are different from your parents, who can have values, beliefs, and attributes that are strikingly in contrast to yours. It’s to a point where whenever you introduce your friends or your significant other to your parents and people are like, “Wait? How are you related?” You might look just alike but the similarities end there. The same pattern happens with your siblings, who are more likely to follow in your parents’ footsteps than you are. You might have had a casual respect for them growing up but the relationship was always a bit distant, with one of you seeing the other as an anomaly.

People with a 1st House Uranus feel like they are very different from their families, as well. The difference is that Uranus in the 1st basically feels like different from everyone, family included. For you, it is mostly just your family who you feel somewhat alienated from. There is usually a sense of everyone being one way and you being the other. This does not necessarily mean growing up in a clan of weirdos. That can definitely happen with Uranus in the 4th, making you feel like the seemingly cookie-cutter one. But, your so-called normal quality is what will make you stand out in the family and actually seem crazy in comparison. The Uranus sense of “is everyone sane and I’m crazy or vice versa” manifests very much in terms of the family with Uranus in the 4th. Of course, this can also mean that you are actually the weirdo in the somewhat straitlaced family, known amongst them for your eccentricities or idiosyncrasies. It can also mean being the very reserved one in a family of loudmouths or being the blunt, aggressive one in a very polite, tactful family.

In any case, there is this deep-seated sense of not quite belonging to your family. It is definitely the "black sheep" situation. This is why, even if you’re not adopted, you may be totally convinced that you are. And, again, you probably don’t experience this feeling of difference elsewhere. Out in the world or around other people, you may not feel that odd or that misunderstood. But, the 4th House has a way of kind of haunting us through some ancient memory or bit of nostalgia. Someone only has to say something in a certain way, that reminds you of your mother or your grandfather, and then you’re reminded of how deeply out-of-place you feel. It’s something that’s quite private and secret. Yet, whenever you go home, you are confronted with it and wrestle with it. And this means either whenever you go home to your family or whenever you just go home to yourself; your own apartment or house as an adult. Uranus in the 4th means that you are rooted in these feelings of alienation or detachment.

Again, you and your family are never quite on the same page when it comes to bonding time. You might feel like letting your guard down and letting them get closer. But, you also feel like you’re getting the cold shoulder or that they’re not deeply connecting to you. Yet, whenever they try to make this deep connection to you, you can give them the cold shoulder and keep your distance. 4th House Uranus individuals feel that ongoing frustration over that lack of intimacy in their personal life, since the 4th House is how you live out your personal life. It can always feel as if something is missing, in that sense. However, this could be because you’re comparing your family situation to other people’s. Seeing other people interact with their families can make you wonder why you can’t be like that with your loved ones. I think the key to overcoming this hang-up is just knowing that, for better or for worse, your family situation is unique and cannot be compared to anyone else’s.

This can take on many different forms. It could be the 4th House Uranus person who just has an insanely dysfunctional family that they decide they want nothing to do with them. This happens like an abrupt change, out of nowhere, usually after years of taking their shit and just being totally done with it. At this stage, there is no turning back as you completely overhaul your private life and create a new family. There is also the person with this placement who realizes that, even though there are misunderstandings and it’s not the warmest, fuzziest relationship, there is still a lot of love between them and their family. It just gets expressed in an unusual or unexpected way. You may very rarely hear “I love you” from your sister and then, for your birthday, she throws you the most amazing surprise party. Your dad, who you always thought was unsupportive, could stand in your corner during a terrible time in your life and not leave your side until it gets better.

Uranus in the 4th also could just mean that your family are more like your group of friends than your family. This is why there is not a lot of traditional affection that happens when you all get together because it’s just like hanging out. It’s also why your family may not be like other people’s families. In fact, your parents could be remarkably cool growing up in terms of educating you about sex or giving you your freedom. It is quite typical for those with this placement to grow up in a more progressive or open-minded household, being treated like an equal instead of someone lesser. If you weren’t treated like an equal growing up, though, you can experience some profound anger and frustration about that which leads to an obsession with never being weak again later in life. You need to feel very rooted in that sense of egalitarianism and equality. The best parents for you are ones who don’t treat you like an inferior and give you all the space you need. Many people with this placement are lucky to have parents like that and it forges an amazing bond with them.

At home, there is something about you that changes the temperature when you walk into the room. This can occur with family but it can also occur with the people you live with. You are very comfortable with being a catalyst for change, playing this role to the hilt in your private sphere. When everyone just wants to have a nice, civil family dinner, you bring up politics and insist on talking about it. At the family reunion, you may totally crash the ceremony or be the one in the room throwing all of the shade. Even just in your own home, you have to throw people off-balance. Throughout adulthood, roommates may not be entirely comfortable with you. They don’t exactly know what you’ll do to try and change things. You could do them the favor of doing their dirty dishes, for no reason at all, or you could subtly attempt to control or manipulate their ways. You are often a very relaxed person to live with but you can become erratic when you feel as if things are not entirely under control because, to you, somehow and someway, it has to change, whether that is imposed change or random change. 

Although you’d think Uranus in the 4th would mean pure chaos all of the time in your home life, you can actually shift between insanity and structure. After all, there is a certain regularity to all of our home lives. So, you are either trying to establish regularity in the midst of chaos at home or creating chaos in the midst of regularity. This obviously leads to very strange patterns behind closed doors, like feeling the need to have dinner at 11:30 pm or buying new Tupperware even though you just did that last week. Lots of sudden changes in home d├ęcor can occur, as well, to the point where your spouse may become desensitized to it. The 4th House is our safe place and with Uranus here, you just feel more safe when there is a lot of change going on. Those who live with you are just going to have to live with that.

When old friends become like brothers or sisters to us, they enter into our 4th House territory. This is also true of those who we marry. So, whether it’s a surrogate family member or a spouse, in order for them to enter this sacred space of yours, they have to be prepared for anything. You aren’t going to feel comfortable and safe around people who are going to be too judgmental or resistant to the unconventional. In private, you can be downright wacky and it’s not something many people know. Uranus in the 4th House shows that this weirdness is quite a source of vulnerability to you. So, you aren’t very public about it. Therefore, it’s crucial that whoever you deem family gives you the space to be weird and to exist independently. You just need a lot of space, in general, in your personal life and the other person has to know how to handle that.

In your downtime, you love experimenting and tinkering with different ideas. Doing various things around the house like decorating or fixing things or cooking can be an opportunity for that experimentation. It’s what can lead you to actually make your own recipes, which can turn out to be flat-out terrible or downright brilliant. Many crazy mishaps occur in the kitchen for you, from burning the simplest of things to wild accidents with the food or drinks. This all taps into your personal history of being a source of chaos at home. Throughout your childhood and into adulthood, you were quite a little whirlwind in your private sphere. You were rather low-key but still able to cause a commotion, often by being very accident-prone. Always two steps away from the burning the house down, your parents had to keep more of an eye out for you.

But, this just emphasizes the fact that there was always something wild going down in your household. With Uranus in the 4th, you have memories of a strange upbringing. You might have been that kid who told outrageous stories about their family life and nobody believed you or took you seriously because they were just too crazy. But, they were true and it’s a pattern that has manifested into adulthood for you. This also highlights the fact that you just come from unpredictable stock. In terms of your lineage, Uranus in the 4th House people are usually the descendants of a long line of rebels, misfits, geniuses, or free-spirits. And since Uranus is our state of mental freedom, it will be very liberating for you to realize that you’ve simply inherited this independence and oddness. You can retreat into that safe space of yours in a way that makes you feel free because you will realize that you were born into a family (in terms of both your immediate and extended family) that thrives so much on freedom.

Doing genealogy can be very eye-opening, in this sense. Breakthroughs can occur when you realize that your great-grandfather was the town eccentric or that you have a second cousin on your mother’s side who is an intellectually brilliant scientist. Researching your family tree can be wonderful because you realize that the people you thought you were so different from are more like you than you once thought. These ancestors or relatives could also just be your parents. Learning that your mom was actually an outcast in high school or that your dad dabbled in political protesting can help make sense of things for you. It’ll make you see that, with Uranus in the 4th, defying the rules and insisting on change are simply in your blood. Therefore, you can honor these roots and know what to do with them, regularly going into that private place in which you can get on your own progressive, individualistic wavelength.

Monday, June 19, 2017

Update on The Descendant: The Other Half Of You

I know I told you a couple of weeks ago that I was releasing my e-book, The Descendant: The Other Half Of You, on the 22nd of this month. But, in order to make that deadline, my brain would’ve exploded from all the work I’m doing; not just working double time on the e-book but my readings and my articles on here. So, I have to change the date. I am now releasing the e-book on June 27.

This will allow me to work at a better pace and not rush to get it all done, which would force me to sacrifice the quality of the product. And I am definitely not one of those “I’ll sleep when I’m dead” types. It’s literally impossible for me to go without my seven to eight hours of sleep. I chalk it up to my 12th House Saturn and Neptune, as well as the fact that I quit caffeine a couple years ago. So, I need more time to be able to fit this into my schedule in a functional way. Also, I wanted to let you know that the e-book will be priced at $14.99 and, as I said before, will be available for purchase on the blog and through PayPal. All debit cards and credit cards accepted.

June 27 also turns out to be the perfect date this month for me to release it because I officially entered my exact Reverse Nodal Return today. And the Moon will be transiting Leo and hitting my natal South Node and the transiting North Node exactly on that day. Also, the Sun will be transiting my 5th House for the last day this year that day and transiting Venus will be exactly conjunct my Nadir in Taurus. And I chose that day without even knowing the transits beforehand. So, that just goes to show how perfectly astrology works out. The Venus in the 4th House transit should come as a relief because after the past couple of weeks (I literally worked all week last week), I could use some 4th House relaxation and downtime. I plan on taking a much-needed vacation next week after I get all of my work wrapped up.

Anyways, I’m not complaining because it’ll all be worth it. This is the second e-book I’ve written and I am especially enjoying this one because, unlike the one I wrote on planets in the 12th House, which only applies to certain people, this one will apply to and be helpful to anyone and everyone. So, I’m excited to share this with you guys. And I’ll still be making time to write a few more articles this week. Talk to you again soon!


Thursday, June 15, 2017

Uranus in the 6th House

Having Uranus in the 6th House means that there is nothing normal or conventional about your daily routine. The 6th House symbolizes the ins and outs of our daily grind; the order that we create on a regular basis in order to get things done. But, with Uranus in the 6th, that sense of order is either very unorderly or highly peculiar. It is most often both. Whatever house we have Uranus in is the house where things constantly get turned upside down and where we can expect abrupt change. So, this sense of unpredictability and chaos defines your daily existence. The uniqueness of this placement lies within the ability to solve problems and complete tasks in inventive, surprising ways.

If the 6th House is one’s work ethic, Uranus in the 6th is an indicator that this work ethic will come and go unexpectedly. You might shock people who wrote you off as lazy when they see just how much you’re capable of getting done when you’re “on.” In fact, these bursts of productivity can be downright manic. You’ll manage to clean the bathroom, mop the kitchen floor, re-organize your closet, and go grocery shopping within the span of a few hours all before cooking dinner from scratch later that evening. It can get to a point where it even really surprises you how efficient and industrious you are capable of being. You just all of a sudden get into a work groove and often after ridiculously long bouts of procrastination.

This can be evident when it comes to your actual job, as well. Since this house tells us how we tackle our work, the 6th House Uranus means that those who you work with may not know just when or how you’ll deliver a brilliant work performance. You will do your job wonderfully but this can be, again, just when everyone is convinced you’re slacking off or won’t come through. The 6th House’s influence permeates all sorts of tasks and jobs, so this can manifest in terms of chores or your work performance. It can also be the college student who waits until the last minute to do their research paper and then turns in a phenomenal, well-done essay with all of the proper formatting and citations. It’s not like Jupiter in the 6th, who manages to get lucky in this way in terms of what they have to get done. It’s just that your spells of efficiency hit you like lightning and because of that, you never know when that lightning will strike. 

At the same time, this introduces a lot of chaos into your daily grind because you think you’re at your most efficient when you’re working haphazardly. In many cases, you get the 6th House Uranus individual who defies scheduling and time-management. You can be too detached (Uranus) from a regimented way of doing things (6th House). Of course, this can stress out other people who are depending on you to take care of these things, from your co-workers to your roommates to your spouse. The more someone shares this daily time with you, the more they could find their schedule being turned upside down by your off-the-wall sense of time. But, Uranus is where we want to be truly independent and free. So, you will most likely not be bothered by this and will insist that they do things their way and you do things your way.

This deep-seated sense that you operate on a clock that is just different from other people’s internal clock can go the other way, too. With the 6th House symbolizing procrastination as much as it does productivity, you may also defy this sense of “doing it later.” For these types of 6th House Uranus folks, what can be done today should not be put off tomorrow. That just seems like a more logical way for you to work. But, you might try to impose your idealistic sense of productivity on to your day to the degree where you are out-of-step with how time functions. The idea that there are only 24 hours in a day and only so much you can get done does not sit well with you. You don’t see why there can’t be 36 hours within the day and you live like there is, unlike the rest of us.

Going against the idea of not doing everything on your to-do list can actually cause just as much chaos as throwing the to-do list out of the window. In this former state of mind, you will go wild with stress and may deal with problems that others see as simple and nonconsequential in the oddest of ways. You can operate on your own schedule, then, in a strikingly anal-retentive way that just does not fit in with other people’s way of tackling tasks. You could make a to-do list for a quick trip to the store, even if you just have to pick up literally two things. The idea of forgetting of one those two things and, therefore, being inefficient is something you will go against. And if such a screw-up happens, it can be a definite trigger for bursts of anxiety and overall freaking out. It surprises people, who just don’t understand why you don’t go with the flow more.

So, whether you are wildly obsessive-compulsive or blithely unconcerned with time and routine, there is this sense that you have been programmed to complete tasks in ways that other people have not. Because of this, there is often something downright machine-like about Uranus in the 6th House individuals, as if they are robots trained to do things in a certain way that others are not. But, this is where your inventiveness comes from. You see this work in a different way than other people and it allows you to complete that work differently. In doing so, you can come up with solutions that other people don’t see or haven’t thought of before.

This placement symbolizes a unique form of practicality and problem-solving. If you go by your own clock in a very loose way, you have the space required to tackle things inventively. Many people with this placement are total MacGyver types, fixing the sink faucet or the broken chair with some random combination of super-glue, an old sponge, and lots of string. However, if you operate on your own time in a really disciplined way, you will always remain two steps ahead of everyone else because you are always thinking of how to keep your bases covered. Something disastrous can happen and you’ve already anticipated it happening and already have a plan ready to go in order to clean up the mess. This is why lots of people will come to you with their problems. Not really emotional problems but pragmatic ones, as you will thrive on “brainstorming” in order to figure out a way to correct the issue that the other person hadn’t thought of before.

Thanks to Uranus’ backwards and contradictory quality, you regard your tasks and chores differently than others in quite a few ways. You will also see things that others regard as boring drudgery are liberating to you. Uranus, after all, is how we cultivate our state of mental freedom. Thanks to Uranus being in your 6th House, you feel freest on an intellectual level when you’re working. This is probably because your mind is always going in terms of keeping this work interesting and figuring out new ways to pull it off. So, doing the dishes or engaging in some yardwork can be quite a thrill to you. You will come up with all sorts of ideas, throughout the process, on how to get better, like how if you scrub the pan for a while, let it soak, and then scrub it again an hour later, you’ll be able to get all of the grease off in a cleaner, easier manner. While it seems like Uranus in the 6th would make you partial to all sorts of cutting edge technology to cut corners in terms of housework, I think you are just as likely to want to do it all yourself. 

In fact, having this placement can make you a total expert at the most random of things. You could end up saving money by never having to call an exterminator, a repairman, a gardener, or a decorator. Again, you are more likely to want to do it yourself, especially since it serves as an expression of independence. Let’s not forget that the 6th House is inherently ruled by Mercury. But, unlike Uranus in the 3rd, who finds freedom through all sorts of intellectually based learning, Uranus in the 6th House people find their freedom through more practical, down-to-earth learning. Basically, anything that is a useful skill is a way to cultivate that independence. And, again, you can be downright brilliant at it, figuring out the best method to keep bugs away during the warm months or painting every room in your house with the skill of a professional.

The thing is, though, that these skills and methods that you find so interesting could be seen as dull or tiresome to others. It’s another way in which you can feel out of sync. The flip side of the 6th House Uranus is that things that other people don’t see as tasks or chores could be undertaken by you with a surprising and maybe even inappropriate rigor. In other words, it could be making a to-do list of everything you want to do on vacation or planning your friend’s birthday party as if it were your actual job. And if you’re planning a wedding, you will be an even crazier stickler. People around you might recommend that you calm down some, which will only make you go even wilder with all of the organizing and micromanaging. It’s a good rule that the more relaxed people are about getting something done, the more uptight you’ll be. But, the more uptight they are about something, the more relaxed you’ll be. Needless to say, when it comes to organizing events, if everyone just wants to have a good time, they may not leave it up to you.

Yet, it is this seemingly outlandish ability to organize and plan that makes it so you can succeed at just about any job you do. The 6th House does come into play in regards to career but in a sense of it showing how well you’ll do on the job. Uranus in the 6th House people usually excel at their job and reveal themselves to be prodigious workers. But, this usually only happens when you either have something to be in control of on the job or when you’re working independently. Otherwise, you can constantly feel disconnected from the people you’re working with, who will either be doing too little or too much for you, and this can create constant stress. You have your own distinct pace of working and that really needs to be respected, not only by the people who you’re working with but by you. Don’t try to make yourself fit into a schedule, routine, or system that you cannot fit into.

The 6th House is also indicative of one’s health. So, you will have just as many oddities when it comes to your health as you do your work ethic and methods. When Uranus in the 6th House people get sick, it is often out of nowhere. You might not even be able to trace who you got that cold from or remember when you started feeling it. You just suddenly woke up with a burning fever and a stuffy nose you can hardly out of breathe. Whenever you get sick, it is usually pretty radical, in this sense. But, the getting over it can be just as radical. After all, Uranus is where random and abrupt changes happen. So, sickness can hit you in a really overwhelming fashion but it can also completely disappear overnight, with enough medicine and rest.

For this reason, your immune system does not feel entirely reliable and this is connected to your thought patterns. The mental and physical qualities of the 6th House combine to create the mind-body link. While I don’t believe your mind is entirely responsible for your bodily health, it does play a significant role. All of the mental chaos that you can put yourself through can take a toll on your body. Stress has an odd way of keeping things exciting and interesting for you. But, that can manifest not just as wild anxiety but by getting the flu right when you have all of that work due. The fact that you often seem to get sick at the exact wrong time is not a coincidence. Yet, your ability to feel better very rapidly is also not just happenstance. In many ways, your thoughts keep your body off-balance through unexpected illness and unexpected recovery.

Your Uranus in the 6th can also make you go wild and crazy through outrageous bouts of hypochondria or worries about health. You could make a doctor’s appointment, utterly convinced that you have something serious. But, by that morning, you’re as cool as a cucumber, having come to your senses about this alleged illness, which you may not even have. It’s safe to say that having this placement makes you a, well, interesting patient for your doctor(s) to deal with. You might be able to have a conversation with him or her that makes it seem like you work across the hall. The independence of the 6th House Uranus gets expressed through a Web MD education. One of your favorite things to do could be Googling various symptoms and illnesses, then using them to observe what you or someone else may have. Even though you can have these random moments of hypochondria, you are generally very logical and rational about health matters.

This also highlights the fact that many 6th House Uranus individuals do not go to the doctor or the dentist on a regular basis. In that expression of mental freedom, you may be convinced that you’re doing all you need to do on a daily basis in order to stay healthy. But, like many people with placements in the 6th, who have strong feelings about doctors or dentists, it could take a possible health scare or emergency for you to make that trip. And even if you get your check-ups more frequently, they still may not be as regular as the doctor ordered. This is what can make you a particularly wayward patient. Also, you could resist the doctor’s advice, feeling as if you know better. Either way, the doctor is in for many surprises with you, whether it’s how healthy you’ve remained without a check-up or how outrageous your situation actually is. You’re also prone to the most random of emergency visits, which could embarrass others but only keeps things interesting for you.