Well, here we are. We’ve reached the final planet in the Planets in the 7th House series and I’ve saved the most infamous one for last: Pluto. People are endlessly fascinated with Pluto. So, why don’t we explore what happens when you have Pluto in your 7th House. If having Pluto in the 1st House is like a solo trip to the Underworld, Pluto in the 7th House expects to have someone to accompany them through the fiery pit. That’s sort of like romance for those with this placement: going through Hell together. Obviously, this can become self-destructive, which is the downside of Pluto. But, it takes two to tango in the 7th House. So, who exactly is doing the destroying?
A 7th House Pluto person’s relationships can get very dark, if they allow them to. This is an influence that really makes a person want to know the good, the bad, and the ugly about the person that they’re with. And that doesn’t have to just be a romantic partner. It can be their best friend or their business partner; whoever they’re in close, one-on-one association with. In knowing all of your dark parts, they get to know all of their dark parts. As I’ve said throughout this whole series, 7th House planets reflect each other, back and forth, to a point where it might become difficult to recognize just who is doing what in the relationship.
So, there is often an (unhealthy) expectation of darkness and turmoil and drama in one’s personal relationships. If you think that a 1st House Pluto person might be hostile or feel like people are out to get them, they often don’t hold a candle to 7th House Pluto people. The 7th House is the house of other people. And if you have this placement, you constantly see the ugliness in other people. But, this can also make you constantly see the ugliness in yourself. To a certain degree, you want this and to a certain degree, you don’t. Pluto’s influence can be scarily overwhelming. And when it’s in the 7th House, your relationships can consume you and possess you and bring out a side of you that’s just terrifying. This might be why it’s easier to just resist involvement in relationships.
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Another reason is because you give your absolute all to others. Pluto in the 7th House makes you pull out all the stops, even when it concerns casual friendships. There’s really nothing “casual” about relationships to you, even if you might have a strong Air influence. You can be light and breezy and cool about everything else. But, relationships? That’s kind of life-or-death for you. So, you want other people who are just as all-or-nothing about connecting as you are. This is what you expect and when you don’t get it, you can be really devastated and heartbroken. Others might be surprised at the reactions of a 7th House Pluto person to what they saw as not a big deal. But, for you, everything in your relationships are loaded with meaning and depth and smoldering passion.
At least, they should be. If not, you’re going to feel pretty empty. When our 7th House planets don’t receive from others what they give to them, it throws them off balance. And for Pluto, which can already be very unbalanced, if you let it, this can make relationships deeply upsetting. It’s quite common for Pluto in the 7th House people to be so selective with lovers, in particular, that they have very few of them. When you don’t get that intensity from others, you don’t feel intensely about them. And when you don’t feel intensely about them, why even bother? Pluto in the 7th House people can actually come off as very nonchalant, casual, and cool when they’re not engaged in deep relationships. You might even seem very superficial and feel that way, cursing yourself for it.
You’re not superficial, though, and you need to learn to first find those depths within. This is the mistake that Pluto in the 7th House individuals end up making. They crave intensity from others so much that they confuse upsetting, traumatic intensity with healthy passion. So, you’ll find yourself in one very dysfunctional relationship after another but believing somehow that this is okay because at least you’re feeling something! At least life isn’t boring! In fact, a strong Pluto influence in the chart, in any way, can instill this belief. But, with Pluto in this house, it can really manifest on an one-on-one level. You can also find yourself being a major source of the dysfunction, getting bogged down in unhealthy patterns because you prefer this constant turbulence over emptiness.
Instead, those with Pluto in their 7th House need to be able to heal themselves within, understanding the difference between healthy and unhealthy passion. When you do so, you know that you’re bringing a very appealing intensity to the table that is about depth not drama. And you can weed out those who just bring the drama to your life. Pluto represents healing and transformation. So, this placement indicates that personal relationships will be a great catalyst for change and heightened awareness for you. Pluto in the 7th House people will commonly report that they no longer conduct relationships the way they used to. You have the power to go from being a very destructive influence in people’s lives to someone who is a very healing, empowering influence.
Yet, the road to that empowerment will often involve some brutal honesty. 7th House Pluto people can be quite fierce when they’re relating to others, which might not be something that’s evident right off the bat. You like getting right to the core of the truth with other people, not minding if you awaken something in them that makes them uncomfortable or unsettled. Pluto in the 7th House is definitely provocative. Not in the shocking, unpredictable way that Uranus in the 7th provokes. It’s more so about stirring up deep feelings, as you know that this is the way that transformation is achieved. So, if some people have to get angry at you for it or hate you for it, you can be accepting of it. What you’re doing is not cruel, though. You just know that you sometimes have to bring painful things up with other people in order to make them stronger, wiser, deeper individuals.
You’re also really good to have around whenever someone is going through Hell themselves. This should be how your Pluto in the 7th travels through the Underworld with others. You shouldn’t take them to Hell or associate with people who take you down there. You just need to be fully present whenever they’re going through it. With your perceptive insights and strength, you’re an incredible resource for others. This is true of friendships and this is especially true of romantic partnerships. Pluto in the 7th House is absolutely going to be there for their significant other through thick and thin. For you, this is the essence of relationships: surviving all of the tough times together.
Your romances will usually start off on a pretty hot and heavy note. Passion has to be present, right from the start. Pluto is a notoriously sexy, seductive planet. So, there’s usually no shame with a 7th House Pluto if the sex happens really early. It’s about going as deeply as possible with your partner and figuring out everything about them. In most cases, this can turn people with this placement into private detectives, snooping around to learn as much about the other person as possible. The first time you visit their place, your first move will probably be to do some investigating. For this reason, Google will also be your best friend. But, you enjoy this process, especially since you’re so drawn to people who are very mysterious and have an amazing depth that begs to be explored.
Relationships progress with great intensity and your partners are usually as ferociously committed as you are. This is why it’s very common for Pluto in the 7th House people to get very serious with their partners very quickly. You might virtually move in together right away and even get married after a short period of time. But, this usually isn’t about spontaneity and impulse. It’s not a “whirlwind” love affair. It’s more so about saying to each other, “Let’s be as committed as possible. Let’s completely be a part of each other’s lives.” The one who will ultimately win your heart is the one who will not hesitate and totally throw themselves into the relationship along with you.