Whether you have an empty 8th House or planets in the 8th, whatever is residing in this house represents your dark side. It’s the covert, scary part of yourself that can emerge when provoked and can have a destructive influence on your relationships. At the same time, your 8th House sign and/or planet(s) can also have a wonderfully healing influence. The placement(s) in your 8th House show the ways in which you should work through your emotional issues and hash through any of the psychological inheritances, good or bad, that have been passed down to you via your family’s history. Here is how we can break the cycle and transform it, extending this power to others.
So, even though your 8th House has been wounded, it also shows how you are capable of being a survivor. Emotional, internal resources are found in the 8th House and this is something that will enrich your relationships. The ways in which you engage in intimacy are described by the sign and/or planet(s) residing in your 8th House. This includes emotional intimacy and the disclosure of certain secrets. But, it also means sexual intimacy. Sex is represented by this house but in a way that’s about cultivating a deeper sexual connection, as well as overcoming any emotional problems that might be standing in the way of better sex between you and your partner. Therefore, things get very passionate and intense in the 8th House, in many different ways.
8th House in Aries and/or Mars in the 8th House
You have been most wounded in life through a sense of being bullied and pushed around. Traumatic episodes of physical violence or sexual abuse could’ve occurred that made you feel dominated and weak. There also could have been unbalanced or unhealthy displays of anger that really impacted you. So, your dark side emerges through sheer rage and frustration, making you destructive through being obsessed with staying strong and winning out over other people. You are living out this inherited pattern of killing or being killed, which can make you terribly selfish and highly aggressive in ways that only create more pain and more conflict.
So, you are working through your emotional issues by managing your anger and understanding that you can achieve victories without having to destroy someone else. You have a cutthroat kind of strength that can help you survive. But, real healing occurs when you use this obsessive drive as a healthy inner resource, instead of a way to eat other people alive. You are capable of being a true force of nature and finding your power through this ferocious drive and determination, which will, of course, help you emerge as a winner in the face of emotional trials. When being intimate, you are very assertive and passionate, as you are so motivated to hash out deeper issues. You are highly sexual and seek a connection in sex that is fierce and invigorating. If anything is messing up this sexual connection, you will want to address the issue head-on and overcome it.
Taurus in the 8th House
Your feeling of being wounded has occurred through feeling like there is not enough harmony and security. A traumatizing experience of whoever you loved or whatever you owned being taken away has scarred you. It has created a shadow side that is scarily possessive and rigid, making you sink your claws into something or someone until you draw blood. You may stop at nothing in order to obtain the material possessions and pleasures you want. You’ve inherited a certain amount of greed and materialism that is often a desperate cry for power and control underneath. But, this only creates chaos and destruction, as your inability to let go only makes it harder to feel secure.
Mastering these personal demons comes by finding a feeling of security within that no one and nothing can take away from you. Then, you can mellow out some by not being so obsessed with hanging on to what or who makes you feel comfortable. Deep down, you have an almost ruthless ability to not budge. But, when you find true healing, you can use this inner consistency as a resourceful way to survive. In intimacy, you are quite level and grounded, taking a simple approach to emotional sharing. Sex is more of a physical, sensual connection for you. This is why you have to examine yourself and make sure you’re fully comfortable in your skin to cultivate a sexual bond.
Gemini in the 8th House and/or Mercury in the 8th House
Your emotional scars have stemmed from experiences of being tricked, lied to, or manipulated. In more dramatic cases, serious mental abuse could have occurred where someone was always getting inside your head and planting toxic ideas or cutting you down to size with their words. So, your shadow side can make you scarily manipulative, playing dangerous or destructive mind games with others, as well as sharp-tongued and verbally cutting. You have inherited an ability to always stay two steps ahead that can get quite controlling, making you either withhold information from other people or use the information you’ve obtained against someone else.
You have the power to hash out these psychological problems in a very intelligent way, as you possess a logical understanding of your issues. In fact, this is sometimes the bad thing as you clearly know what you’re doing wrong but still do it anyhow. Yet, this cleverness and intelligence can be used as a weapon to survive emotional difficulties. Then, you’ll find healing by knowing you’re smart enough to rise above the darkness. Your intimate self is communicative and clear, eager to discuss whatever problems are going on. This applies to sexual intimacy, as well. You’re a real problem-solver in terms of the sexual problems you or your partner may be having. Sex is constantly on your brain, but as a way to truly connect, and you have a very erotic way with words.
Cancer in the 8th House and/or Moon in the 8th House
You have endured emotional pain due to a sense of not truly being taken care of or emotionally understood. Experiences of your actual needs not being met, acknowledged, or supported have scarred you. It’s why when you go to a dark place, you can become frighteningly needy and insecure. Your feelings consume you and devour you as well as the other person. This stems from an inherited emotional pattern of never feeling safe or protected, meaning that you can express a very destructive view that nobody will ever be able to care for you enough. Yet, when you actually find someone who is genuinely caring, you may not entirely trust it or receive it.
Because of this, you will gain a feeling of inner security from being aware of your emotional issues and working through them. You have a powerful ability to understand your feelings, even at your most irrational. But, when distorted, this can be expressed a bitter idea that no one feels the way that you do. So, you will heal when you can integrate both the ability to self-nurture and be nurtured, surviving trials by knowing when to support yourself and when to look to others for support. Intimacy makes you feel very vulnerable and emotional sharing fulfills a deep inner need of yours. You also really need passionate, satisfying sex in your life. Insecurities and fears may easily throw you off. But, you just need to go with the flow, as you have an instinct for lovemaking.
Leo in the 8th House and/or Sun in the 8th House
The difficult emotional experiences you have can give you this identity of being a very wounded individual. This can take your self-expression to dark places that make you remain that person you were when you were hurt, scarred, or traumatized. Because of this, it can be difficult for you to separate your shadow self from your general personality. It might seem like the only way to get attention is to be destructive and you can become self-absorbed in your desire to be powerful, which is the result of a long line of powerful personalities whose traits you’ve inherited. In short, you often express your dark side just because you can, turning your will into a deadly force.
The more you conquer your emotional problems, the more self-confident you will feel. In fact, delving deep into your psyche gives you this sense of coming alive. Yet, this is also why you can be so obsessed with drama: you may only feel alive when things are emotionally difficult or upsetting. But, the good thing is that you can find healing through this. Your true self is a survivor and your resourceful personality keeps you going through trials and tribulations. You discover and maintain your self-awareness through intimacy. The deeper you go, the more you stay true to who you are. You’re a very sexual person and learn a lot about yourself through sexual connections. This can potentially make you very self-absorbed during sex, though, so don’t make it all about you.
Virgo in the 8th House
Your experiences of being emotionally scarred have come from harsh criticisms and unreasonable standards of other people. You could have been victimized or abused in a way that made you feel ripped to shreds, like you were never good enough. Also, this emotional pain may have stemmed from having to obsessively serve others and be up to par. As a result, you have developed a dark side that can be obsessively critical and dissatisfied, not only with other people but with yourself. When these shadows emerge, your tongue becomes a deadly weapon, most of all against yourself. You have inherited a trait of being smart and observant to a very powerful degree and this is something that can become destructive if you allow yourself to abuse this power.
Since you have such an acute sense of judgment, you can delve into your psychological problems and work through them with great clarity. You are very humble about your issues, being the first to admit your deep flaws. But, you might also be so preoccupied with your flaws that they take on a chaotic life of their own, keeping you distracted from the good within you. Yet, this is where your power comes from: having a resourceful ability to assess your strengths and weaknesses and use them constructively. Such self-criticism helps you survive. You are also willing to work hard in terms of intimacy, constantly identifying the problems between you and the other person. This may bring frequent dissatisfaction on a sexual level, if you’re too busy figuring out what’s not working. Yet, you also have the ability to fully dedicate yourself toward improving the sexual part of the relationship.
Libra in the 8th House and/or Venus in the 8th House
You are dealing with psychological scars in terms of how you were valued and loved. Your beauty or sensuality was likely recognized intensely or at an inappropriate age, making your attractiveness difficult to handle or something that could have even felt wrong on some level. You also could have been involved in an abusive or toxic situation where you had to keep the peace, no matter what the cost to your own happiness or peace. As a result, your inner darkness emerges by either making you obsessed with being liked or causing you to ruin whatever love you do receive. You can possibly veer between the two. Your emotional inheritance has instilled an unbalanced idea of self-love and of relating to others that can make relationships feel dangerous or threatening.
Therefore, working on your emotional issues will allow you to truly love yourself and others, more than the average person. You have a dysfunctional knack of creating chaos or destroying things in order to find your peace. Yet, your internal power stems from this ability to cultivate harmony from a profound place within. When you do, you will be able to tap into inner resources that help you survive emotional challenges with your peace of mind intact. Your intimate self is very appealing, kindhearted, and agreeable. You strive to share yourself emotionally in cooperative ways. You possess plenty of sex appeal, as well, and seek to make the sexual connection a real give-and-take. Having a rich sex life not only gives you a feeling of peace but of healthy self-esteem.
Scorpio in the 8th House and/or Pluto in the 8th House
The emotional trauma in your life goes particularly deep and is something that you really need to face. You have been scarred from just having to confront the grittier, more intense aspects of life at an early age: death, abuse, abandonment, betrayal, or cruelty. Really upsetting experiences in terms of sex can also definitely be possible, including being raped, molested, or just given too much sexual attention too soon. Your dark side can be especially frightening, causing you to spiral down into the abyss or bring others with you. Such destructiveness is usually a distorted expression of a yearning for power, as you come from a long line of people who misused their power in some way.
Yet, you are truly made to figure out your psychological problems and just what to do with them. You are blessed with the magnificent power to transmute your darkness into something healing and beautiful. The thing is that you just have to learn how to pull yourself out of that darkness, as you can be so accepting of the shadows that you lose track of the light. Once you consciously choose healing, you will be unstoppable in the path toward becoming a better person, transforming others along the way. Your deep-seated resourcefulness means that you can truly change the lives of those you’re intimate with, as you know how to share inner resources and feelings in ways that are very powerful. When it comes to sex, you are wholehearted and seek a very intense connection. You may go to total extremes of being powerful and powerless in bed that need to be addressed. You have great sexual charisma yet this energy can be so obsessive that it needs to be redirected a bit.
Sagittarius in the 8th House and/or Jupiter in the 8th House
The emotional wounds you have that need healing revolve around your sense of faith and freedom. You could have endured something very painful or traumatic that prevented you from feeling like anything is possible. As a result, you developed a dark side that makes you feel in control by refusing to be hemmed in or brought down. When this part of you emerges, you can go to the excesses of excess, hurting others and yourself by not knowing when to stop. Your passed-down inheritance centers on this addiction to pushing your luck that can push you right over the edge. And the thing is that you might not care or be bothered by who falls off the cliff with you.
This is why dealing with your emotional problems will allow you to not be too naïve or reckless. When you work on your issues, you can stop and realize that you actually have issues. Otherwise, you can be quite ruthless in your compulsion to walk through the fire and not care about being burned. But, this attitude can become transformed into a formidable kind of faith. You heal yourself and find your power by believing that whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. This resourceful attitude brings good fortune into your life, helping you turn any sort of emotional pain into a positive. While being intimate, you are quite irrepressible, as you gain so much enthusiasm and freedom from this process of deep sharing. You take a sanguine attitude to the complex issues of the relationship, which means that you can almost magically heal any sexual blockages going on with your positivity. Yet, your sexual appetite is huge and you’ll want more and more of this bond.
Capricorn in the 8th House and/or Saturn in the 8th House
Emotional pain has manifested in your life in a way that has made you feel like quite a failure. You might have suffered through some experience that gave you a terrible feeling of not being in control and not being able to accomplish what you set out to. Therefore, your shadow side comes out in ways that can totally overwhelm you with worry, anxiety, and a sense of defeat. You can also become deeply calculated in your attempt to be in command again, placing you in a destructive mode. You have inherited this haunting feeling of not being able to achieve what you would like and it’s something that can bring deep bitterness and resentment at your lack of control.
What’s going to make you feel truly accomplished is facing your personal demons and understanding how to manage and overcome the inner darkness. You have the potential to be very obsessive in terms of gaining the upper hand. Yet, when you work as hard as you can on honestly confronting and transforming your issues, you will find yourself experiencing that upper hand in a profound way. So, you heal yourself and discover your inner power by using this self-therapy as a way of gaining authority. You’re going to take intimacy very seriously and this is something that can make it more difficult than it needs to be. You may also strongly resist the process of emotional sharing out of fear as well as of fully giving yourself sexually to your partner. You will have to work hard on keeping the sexual bond deep and alive, as well as not letting your fears ruin it.
Aquarius in the 8th House and/or Uranus in the 8th House
You can be that classic person who is quite detached from their actual emotional pain. Your attitude toward the traumatic things you’ve faced could be very nonchalant and aloof, keeping you distanced from your inner darkness. In truth, you have been deeply impacted by a feeling of being an outcast, being misunderstood, or not having your personal feelings respected. Ignoring your personal needs for others is something that only feeds your dark side, making it emerge in ways that can bring out a scarily impersonal and cold side to you, either toward others or toward yourself. This stems from a psychological inheritance that can easily keep you at arm’s length from your deeper self.
You have the ability to work through your psychological damage in a way that allows you to treat yourself like someone else. Your process of beating your personal demons is quite offbeat and unusual. In the end, emotional chaos feeds your secret sense of being weird and uncontrollable. If you transform this pattern, you can develop survival skills by never allowing yourself to be controlled by toxic programming or the pain of the past. Finding your power gives you freedom, which allows you to engage in intimacy by liberating your partner. Your tolerant approach to the sexual connection means that you’re open to whatever weird, wild things the other person wants to do. Yet, you will expect the same of them or will go somewhere else where your sexuality can flourish.
Pisces in the 8th House and/or Neptune in the 8th House
You will have a particularly tough time seeing your emotional scars clearly or even knowing how they got there in the first place. During anything traumatic or painful in your life, you easily disassociated and went off to some other world, especially if you’ve faced abuse of any kind. So, when your inner shadows come to the surface, it can be like a case of multiple personality disorder. And the more deluded you remain about the chaos you’re creating, the more destructive you’ll be. This is due to coming from a long line of people who were very deceptive or delusional about what was going on, playing power games by remaining out-of-touch with reality somehow. There is also usually a psychological inheritance you’re dealing with of being a victim and robbed of your power.
Therefore, confronting your personal demons will really require you to “wake up” and see things more clearly. Your imaginative side can become quite dangerous, if you let it, either making you psychotic or making you attract psychotics without even knowing it. But, this knack for creating a deeply ideal state will eventually become your power. You become a survivor by visualizing just how you want to transform and work through your issues. Then, you can pour all of your energy into doing just that, operating on a more empowered wavelength. In your intimate relationships, you have the power to take you and the other person to another plane of being. Profound healing, acceptance, and compassion is your way of handling the complexities of intimacy. So, sexual healing is going to be a strong focus here, creating a sexual bond that can become downright blissful.